Myths About Creating A Better Relationship..

by **pegasus202** Wed Aug 06, 2008 8:51 am

Here are 7 of the most common misconceptions
about having a better relationship.
These misconceptions are followed by a perspective
on each one of them.

Myth relationship,
creating all kinds of conflict
in your need for a better relationship.

Myth 2, Love means that I can fix your partner

Reality Check 2

You met your partner because of some special quality
or charteristic that you admired.
You need to accept and allow that quality to flourish
in order to allow you and your partner to grow
into a better relationship.

You may be unaware that you do not even like yourself.
Yet by allowing your partner to grow and expand,
you will experience the quality of your partner
and the beauty within you,
as you begin to enjoy a better relationship.

Myth 3, I am supposed to give up the things I like
in order to be in a better relationship.

Reality Check 3

Giving up the things you like to be in a better relationship
is like take a knife and cutting away a part of yourself.

Your better relationship is based
on the uniqueness of you and your partner.

When you give up your uniqueness
you rob yourself of a better relationship,
your passion and your partner of your creativity.

Myth 4, I will be rescued by a knight in shining armour

Reality Check 4

You may have been conditioned to live your life
expecting someone to take care of you.
What happens if that person becomes ill?
and is no longer able to take care of you.

Your responsibility in creating a better relationship,
is to bring your passion to the table of your relationship.
Some days you will be the knight in shining armour
and another day your partner will be
the knight in shining armour of a better relationship.

You will each get a chance to shine like a star in a
better relationship because of your strengths and weaknesses.

Myth 5, It cost a lot to be in a relationship

Reality Check 5

In a material context,
a better relationship can be expensive
if you think that love is based on the bigger house,
car or boat.
Although some of these material assets are necessary,
they should not be at the expense of
creating a better relationship.

Love is creating a better relationship
by building a relationship that is based on
the simple things in life,
like walking and holding hands,
going on a picnic (just the two of you),
or sharing an ice cream.

Love in a better relationship is not about
what you show on the outside
but what you express in you heart.
Love is not about money or materialism, love just is.

Myth 6, Love in a relationship is or is not a feeling

Reality Check 6

It is not what you say, it is what you do.
You can say, "I love you" which may be
merely words and no feelings (action).
Love is the action of doing.

If you make a cup of tea for yourself,
(the water is boiled), make a cup of tea for your partner.
Whether your partner wants the tea or not is irrelevant,
it is the thought that counts
and the action that cements a better relationship.

Myth 7, I don't have to work at my relationship

Reality Check 7

As a child, you learned to creep before you walked.
Then you learned the letters of the alphabet.
In order to write, you had to learn
how to put those letters together to make words and sentences.

These sentences then become the way in which you communicated.

When you and your partner stop communicating
after learning how to use the letters of the alphabet in sentences,
it's like 2 tape recorders talking to each other -
Nobody is at home to enjoy a better relationship.

HEP.! HEP.! HEP.!