SOME HELPFUL REMINDERS WHEN YOU'RE THINKING OF BREAKING IT OFF

by **archang3l_force** Fri Apr 25, 2008 5:22 am

* If you really care about the relationsip, try hard to better it before breaking up.

You might attemp to change your own behaviors or have a discussion or confrontation. Be frank. You want it clear to both of you that a breakup may offer the only answer to your troubles if n0 other alternative can be devised or made to work

* Either of you has the right to break it off, especially in the early stages

Even though the breakup may be unfair and you may emerge the victim, the truth is that these early stages represent a testing stage

*When you kn0w your partnership has not worked, don't cling

We see life dropouts who wait for the call that never comes. Hurt once, they're afraid of being hurt again and thus paralize themselves, holding on to fantasies about a relationship that has failed. Others break off but guilt makes them cling to a part of a relationship.

*Don't dwell on the breakup once it's happened. stop magnifying

Dont keep obsessing, "If i had stuck with it, it would have worked." It wouldn't have.

Whatever happens with the relationship, keep in mind that good can come of failure. You learn about yourself, what you did wrong, whom you can trust, risks you should have taken and did n0t, what you might do better in terms of future relationships.