Coping with your anger!
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Coping with your anger!
by carelyn Tue Feb 19, 2008 3:01 am
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Is it bad to get mad? That all depend on how you handle it. Frankly, individuals who never get angry don't amount too much. Steel without temper is worthless, and individuals without a certain amount of temper fail to make much of an impact in terms of character. There is a vast difference though between being angry and staying angry.
You can do one of three things with your anger:
1. Suppress it.
2. Save it.
3. Vent it.
Dr. Paul Carlson, a christian psychiatrist, has written, "Anger, in my opinion, is like energy. It cannot be destroyed, but it can be stored or its form can be changed. When we bury the anger within us and repeatedly deny its existence, it accumulates in what i call an unresolved anger fund. The more we suppress anger, the more it accumulates." Meet three people, all whom would deny that they are angry.
First, meet "Peace-at-any-price Polly" Polly grew up in a home with an alcoholic father whose outbursts of temper produced beatings and foul language. She learned not to trigger his temper. Although she said she would never marry someone like her dad, she did that very thing, and when her husband developed a drinking problem, she suppressed her anger.
The second individual who suppresses anger is "Mable the Manipulator"She has a hard time saying what's on her mind, so when communication is difficult, she fights back with mood-swings, headache, and pouting. Actually, she manipulates her husband to get her way. She's angry but she doesn't know how to handle it properly.
The third person is "Sam the Sacker" Sam keeps a large emotional sack handy, and when people anger him, he stays cool on the outside but makes a careful note and stores it away. Eventually he dumps the sack of emotional garbage, going back into the past and documenting every injustice he has received.
All three are angry, yet would deny it. They reap the physical consequences of their anger from headaches to ulcers, from hypertension to backpains. Their hostility comes out in different ways.
A fourth option is to vent your anger in proper way. Ephesians 4:26 says "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath!" The bible never calls anger as sin, only anger handled in a wrong way. Make it work for you. If you must be angry, don't remain angry!
Is it bad to get mad? That all depend on how you handle it. Frankly, individuals who never get angry don't amount too much. Steel without temper is worthless, and individuals without a certain amount of temper fail to make much of an impact in terms of character. There is a vast difference though between being angry and staying angry.
You can do one of three things with your anger:
1. Suppress it.
2. Save it.
3. Vent it.
Dr. Paul Carlson, a christian psychiatrist, has written, "Anger, in my opinion, is like energy. It cannot be destroyed, but it can be stored or its form can be changed. When we bury the anger within us and repeatedly deny its existence, it accumulates in what i call an unresolved anger fund. The more we suppress anger, the more it accumulates." Meet three people, all whom would deny that they are angry.
First, meet "Peace-at-any-price Polly" Polly grew up in a home with an alcoholic father whose outbursts of temper produced beatings and foul language. She learned not to trigger his temper. Although she said she would never marry someone like her dad, she did that very thing, and when her husband developed a drinking problem, she suppressed her anger.
The second individual who suppresses anger is "Mable the Manipulator"She has a hard time saying what's on her mind, so when communication is difficult, she fights back with mood-swings, headache, and pouting. Actually, she manipulates her husband to get her way. She's angry but she doesn't know how to handle it properly.
The third person is "Sam the Sacker" Sam keeps a large emotional sack handy, and when people anger him, he stays cool on the outside but makes a careful note and stores it away. Eventually he dumps the sack of emotional garbage, going back into the past and documenting every injustice he has received.
All three are angry, yet would deny it. They reap the physical consequences of their anger from headaches to ulcers, from hypertension to backpains. Their hostility comes out in different ways.
A fourth option is to vent your anger in proper way. Ephesians 4:26 says "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath!" The bible never calls anger as sin, only anger handled in a wrong way. Make it work for you. If you must be angry, don't remain angry!
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Re: Coping with your anger!
by heavensangel_force Fri Feb 19, 2010 3:51 am
Being mad is not bad when you know how to handle it,just low your temper,imagine you are not mad ,try to open up and when you suddenly think aBOUt G0d YoU can never do that being mad,it makes you feel at at ease
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