When a separation is not good for marriage

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A question you should ask yourself to know if you and your spouse should separate is, "Is the separation a way to avoid working on marital problems?" Communication is key in a relationship. If you have issues that you are not communicating, you may never resolve them and the relationship may falter. Before deciding to separate from your spouse, be sure you and your spouse discuss all the issues each of you have with one another. Take time to talk about the concerns and find possible solutions. If you and your spouse are willing to work on correcting the issues in your marriage, you've made a positive step towards rectifying your relationship. However, if one of you isn't willing to resolve a marital problem, you may want to consider marriage counseling and then take some time apart so that you both can take time to think about what each of you is or is not willing to compromise on.

If you want to separate so you can work out marital problems, make sure that both you and your spouse agree. If one of you doesn't feel comfortable with it, the one who doesn't will feel abandoned. In the case of infidelity, the betrayed person should make it clear the reasons why he or she wants to separate and their intentions. That way, if the spouse who cheated wants to save the marriage, he or she will understand and agree.