How to mend you broken heart

by **carelyn** Fri Feb 08, 2008 2:41 pm

Surviving the Breakup Season: How to Mend Your Broken Heart
By Caroline Presno, Ed.D., P.C.C.

In late December, we are not only in the midst of the holiday season; we are in the middle of the "breakup season." According to research, more breakups occur at this time than at any other time of year.
Maybe it's the stress that the holidays can put on us, or maybe it's because your boyfriend gave you fruitcake instead of the silver necklace you wanted for Christmas. Whatever the reason, you're hurting and you want it to stop. Here's how to mend your broken heart.

Don't Get Down on Yourself
“After a breakup, people tend to plummet into a pit of low self-esteem and guilt.”
After a breakup, people tend to plummet into a pit of low self-esteem and guilt. You are looking for reasons why the relationship ended, and you start obsessing and blaming yourself. "Maybe I was too hard on her for canceling dinner with my parents" or "Maybe I shouldn't have yelled at him when he came home late without calling."
This kind of negative thinking spirals out of control quickly. You may start feeling you're not attractive enough or funny enough or just plain good enough to be with that person, which isn't true. Sit down. Take a breath. And STOP this negative thinking right now! This isn't to say that you shouldn't reflect on your role in the relationship. Just be kinder to yourself!

Forget About Being Friends
Anything that has the word "friend" in it, forget about. "Friends with benefits," "Just friends" -- just say "No."
“It's hard to move on when you are still keeping one foot in the past.”
It's hard to move on when you are still keeping one foot in the past. It's time to rely on your other friends for support and get out there and make new friends. You won't be as quick to accept an invite to a party or call an old high school friend if you are busy with your ex.

Stop Thinking They're "All That"
When a relationship is over, it's easier to think of the good times as opposed to the bad times. The annoying habits and bad character traits seem to recede into the background. All you can think about is the great chemistry and the fun Saturday nights you had going out to your fave Italian restaurant together.
What you're doing is idealizing the relationship now that it's gone. You're turning it into some blockbuster movie romance when at best it was a B movie with mixed reviews. Start looking at it with more objectivity. Remind yourself of the fights you had and the frustration you felt.

Start Dating Again
Post breakup, some people might advise you to work on yourself and forget about the dating scene for a while. And if that's what you feel like doing, no problem. However, this isn't good for everyone and there is nothing wrong with getting back out there sooner rather than later.
“Emailing a person you met online or going on a dinner date may be just the thing you need to lift your spirits.”
Emailing a person you met online or going on a dinner date may be just the thing you need to lift your spirits. Of course, this doesn't mean you should dive into anything right away either. Start by getting your feet wet.

Never Lose Hope
When you are hurting after a breakup, it's easy to tell yourself, "I'll never meet anyone this fabulous again" or "I'll never find anyone." But the reality is, you WILL meet someone and, eventually, you will wind up in a better relationship. If this one was healthy and meant to be, you wouldn't be broken up. If you maintain hope and don't give into the hurt, you can pursue and find what you are looking for.

Source: Yahoo

by **loloy** Fri Feb 08, 2008 2:58 pm

A broken heart takes time to heal the wounds but the scar it creates will remain forever. Thanx for the inspiring ideas sis inspire. It inspired me a lot. Smile

by **jadelyn18** Sat Feb 09, 2008 12:11 am

almost everyone has had their own Broken heart confession of a lost relationship. a broken heart is a broken heart, whether that relationship was in a dating context or marriage. all i can say is it's one of the most painful thing's i've ever suffered.
0ne of the best ways to begin mending a broken heart is to talk about it. talking about our pain helps us accept the reality of the situation, and guides us along in the healing process.

thank you cz admin inspire for your great info or tips..
keep it up cz.

just be who wanna be not
what others wanna see...

by **lovelychel** Tue Feb 19, 2008 3:20 am

broken hearted is the ending of a relationship between to lovers.anyway,it is a part of our life's sometimes up sometimes down.so be cheep up dont waste your tears to the person who broke your heart.Afterall,GOD give us someone better than him.

by **gladden_force** Sat Feb 23, 2008 5:05 pm

Korek ka jan ciztah...ahak bungakngak

by **moon_princess_force** Mon Feb 25, 2008 3:35 pm

my heart was broke many times but gladly i can still mend it.. hehehe

by **aries_force** Thu Feb 28, 2008 7:06 pm

yeah right cztar m0stly we hve sufferd br0ken heart, bt its up t0 u if y0u mend it up..d0nt waste y0ur time and find an0ther...afterall y0u have happy ending...'till y0u found it last...

by **helwa** Thu Feb 28, 2008 7:23 pm

THE ONLY WAY TO HEAL A WOUNDED HEART IS TO FIND LOVE AGAIN. ITS BETTER FORGET PAST AND FINE SUM1 NEW 1 TO LOVE YOU AGAIN, AFTER ALL WHY U HAVE TO CRY TO THE PERSON WHO BROKE YOUR HEART flower

by **jh0s3ph** Sat Mar 01, 2008 6:50 pm

alm0st all of us had experienced being broken hearted,don't be desperate your love one has yet to c0me,enj0y what y0u have n0w,but be always careful... I love you

by **blue0nimushi_force** Sat Mar 08, 2008 7:42 am

FACE THE TRUTH. GONE IS GONE. YOU CAN'T CRY OVER SPILLED MILK, GET ANOTHER GLASS OF FRESH MILK.

by **heavenlyme_force** Sat Mar 08, 2008 8:32 am

ACCEPTING THE TRUTH OF LOSING SOMEONE . BEING POSITIVE THAT YOU FIND A BETTER ONE.

by **juville_force** Wed Mar 12, 2008 8:11 pm

Last few weeks i pass this topic coz i thought i will not suffer this bt now crying in tears

i think i badly need this tips Sad

wa a a a a a a crying in tears

thanks cz care 4 this tips, Crying or Very sad

by **carelyn** Wed Mar 12, 2008 8:22 pm

cz juv ma kara? go gurl you can overcome that! just do like this jive

by **gone_the_force** Thu Mar 13, 2008 11:22 am

it is hard to mend a broken heart you have to let go and move on....by trying your best....

by **archang3l_force** Fri Apr 11, 2008 5:50 pm

when im broken hearted i just stay in one corner and cry for ten minutes. after that ill pick up myself and pretend that she was never part of my life like i dont really kn0w her

by **seductive_ivy** Fri Apr 11, 2008 6:57 pm

mending???well...
get up...do things you've never done before...alone..for the time being...
face the hurt..face the person..forgive..do not attempt to forget ( you'll come out a loser)...grin...do crazy things...
BUT ABOVE ALL THESE THINGS...
Put your trust to GOD ALONE
Remember the life HE GAVE YOU
Always keep yourself guided by HIS WAYS
Yearn for HIS UNDYING LOVE FOR YOU...

happy mending...you'll make it...100%...

halaveux

by **nices** Fri Apr 11, 2008 11:58 pm

it so hurt if you broken heart but can make you strong... let go, move on, to fight and you survive... just keepin the love alive always.... thumbs up

by **purple_gie** Sat Apr 12, 2008 2:20 am

Oh i get in which is just in time! Mending a broken heart? Its hurting its painful its aching but lets move on,
Thank you very much founder cz for the tips and i do hope and pray that i can manage myself and face the reality of being who am i

by **jkakashi01** Sat Apr 12, 2008 5:14 am

FORGIVENESS...
ACCEPTANCE...
MOVING ON...
LOVING YOURSELF...
and let him/her REALIZE that it's his/her lost not yours.
Twisted Evil

by **isko77** Mon Apr 14, 2008 1:17 pm

Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it is also setting yourself free from all fears, bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart.

Do not let the bitterness rare away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let you grow with wisdom in bearing it.

We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today.

by **juville_force** Thu Apr 24, 2008 2:56 am

Well said guys, its easy to say but it hard to do, bcoz of too much pain u felt, u cnt thnk that at once. I suggest after u make "mukmuk" s tabi hak! Stand up do inhale n xhale for 10x, then think 10x, is he worth 4 ur tears? then after u ans. dat 2 urself u follow d tips. Its painful bt surely everyone cn overcome jst try ur best and be strong n dnt 4get to pray always. That's wat i did a mo. ago n i made it Very Happy

by **cloudy_force** Fri Jun 06, 2008 9:43 am

Hak tnt mh!na aq d2 love is my weaknesses! pale

by **issarosette** Tue Jun 10, 2008 6:19 pm

Hurting when we fall in love is one we reality that we should prepare for. Be it in simple ways or worst it will always be there. All this happens because the one we love and us are two distinct individual who grew up in two separate environments, different upbringing. Two individuals discovering each other, learning and livin with it. It doesn't matter who or where we are it will always be like this. The only hope we all have is that when true love and faith in our maker guides the relationship, whatever the odds, the love always survives... as the saying goes, it takes two to tango...

by **lil_angel** Mon Jun 16, 2008 8:31 am

How do I mend a broken heart??? Ouch! A month of tears... a week of bad mood... a day of locking in my room equals... a new ME! Smile!!! Move on!!!

by **tart_force** Mon Jun 16, 2008 1:19 pm

i don't know how to mend my broken heart..MANHID na kasi eh! Sad

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